Cannn relate.
My chronic weakness in games is getting distracted by some new shiny thing and so I give up at mid level and remake a new char on the same game or leaving to make a new char in a new game. I very rarely make it to max lvl content in games I play. So naturally I've played nin on and off for a couple years now never making it past lvl 31 lmao. I've been hit with this often. Sand was real bad like a year ago, but even in returning recently (like a week ago) I was questioned in Mist but thankfully not jailed or anything. My best advice is, as much fun as meeting up with you new village mates and raiding with them sounds like, if you're a lowbie player maybe just stay away? Sucks I know. I have no discord related advice. I don't like the snippets of what I've seen from the current ones so I don't want to join them.
I do wonder though, with so many threads about new player experience, why being insanely hostile to every new player on suspicions of being a spy isn't discussed.